I've Lost My Mom

I've mentioned my mom before on this blog, and taken care of her for many years.   The truth is she took care of me too.   It hasn't always been easy, in fact at times it's been a nightmare, but through it all she was my mom.  This morning I found her in the bathroom between 3 and 4 AM, and she was gone.   My heart is broken and I feel so lost.   Rest in peace Mom.  I love you with all my heart. Beverly Joan -- July 1931 -October 2012   (photo taken May of 1985) &nbs...

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Can't Make Someone Love You

It's no secret I wear my heart on my sleeve.  I feel things deeply, often too deep.    I haven't posted in what...a month almost (?) because a lot's been going on. There's the consistent "drama with my mama"...I don't think will ever change until she passes on-- and while that's painful and draining it's nothing compared to the end of a relationship.    D and I broke up a few weeks ago, only to come back together and agree to try again.   I didn't handle it well at all....I felt so many things.  Abandoned, alone, a chump.... mournful of the loss of my best friend and of course a...

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Austin Police Dept, "It Gets Better"

Touching addition to the "It Gets Better" project from the Austin Police Dept.  Well worth the watch.  Video after the jump. ...

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FB Faves From Today

Favorite FB pictorals tonight! Just had to share.       ...

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She's Baaaaack!

The most infamous intern in the U.S. is back on the radar after 20 years, and who could blame the buxom, raven haired, thong sharing cigar molester?   Monica Lewinsky is shopping a book deal about her torrid affair with Bill Clinton and could receive a large paycheck in the proces ....to the tune of about 12 million bucks.  Not a bad payday eh? I watched her interview all those years ago with Barbara Walters, and I even bought her first book.  And if I'm being honest, I also felt sorry for her.    Of course now that she's an adult she's a little steamed about Bill Clinton getting off...

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Time Travel Thursday

I'm not sure how I forgot TT Thursday last week, but I did.   This is a classic military photo with a little something extra way before DADT.  A little drama, a little passion and a whole lotta chutzpah, dontchathink? ...

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If You Have the Stomach

So the ladies of The View decided to discuss Mitt Romney's '47 %' video.  Just reading that caption and seeing Hasselbeck's picture I can actually hear that harpies voice about to say something typically stupid.    Hasselbeck: "I also think there's a general feeling that with more and more people becoming dependent on government that by next July we could perhaps be celebrating "Dependence Day" and not "Independence Day" in this nation."  Video below if you have the stomach.   ...

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Bitch Hit The Road & a Emergency Vet Trip

Today is going to be a busy, busy day and I already have the stress headache and bloodshot eyes to prove it.    Earlier this month I wrote a post "It's Just a Part of Life" where I talked about my mom's healthcare attendant.    I whined about how if I just outright fired her, the ensuing temper tantrum from momalah would be a nightmare.  So instead of nipping it in the bud...I hit the 'passive agressive' switch and became a cold hearted SOB.  Yesterday it sunk in and she quit...but I'm still in the dog house lol.     The day started normally, but Dawn was extra quiet when she arrived.  ...

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OUR Artist of the Week: Yankel Feather

Many Artists might be tempted to create a personal history or back story resembling Yankel Feathers as it affords the sort of providence that is sure to increase a talented painters work. For Yankel Feather however the truth of his history is a genuine and fascinating footnote to an incredible and prolific artist in every sense of the word. That is why Yankel Feather is OUR Artist of the week! Yankel Feather was born in 1920 in Toxteth Liverpool. He was the youngest of seven children and the family was very poor. A self taught painter, Yankel began to paint as a young age and pursued his art with a solid determination despite such tragedies...

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I Don't Buy It

I do a lot of reading...perhaps too much for it all to sink in sometimes and recently I've read a few articles BY gay people asserting there is no such thing as the "Gay Community".  That the very notion is an urban myth akin to the 'Gay Disposable Income'. They even profess we don't NEED a gay community anymore.    I don't buy it.     It's easy to become jaded, and God knows as a group we gay men are easily susceptible to that condition, but there are so many beacons of light out 'there' in the rainbow world and we need to remind ourselves of that.     So "Where is...

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Currently Crushing On

I've been caught up with Friends lately.   They're on every night and if I'm not actually watching, I at least have it on in the background.   There is something about David Schwimmer that is just so freakin endearing...and he is without a doubt, my current crush!   &nbs...

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All Of Them Heros

September 11th is a sober memorial the world over, and today we remember those who lost their lives to hate and terrorism.  While most LGBTs remember Mark Bingham, there were many more members of our community who lost their lives that day.  Those who were flying, those who were working in the buildings and those who lost their lives trying to rescue the injured.   Here are the faces of our community, not that singling them out means anything other than recognizing those that are often completely overlooked...yet still, all of them are heros.     Father Michael Judge Nancy Walsh Mark Bingham David Charlebois Graham...

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OUR Artist of the Week: Xavier Cortada

Many artists care about the environment, but few would actually hike to both the North & South Poles, which Xavier Cortada did in 2007 and 8.   It was at the top (and bottom) of the world that Cortada planted a green flag to reclaim it for nature and to launch a global reforestation eco-art effort.   Born in 1964 in Albany New York, Xavier now resides in Miami.   His work has been exhibited in museums, galleries and cultural venues across the Americas, Europe, and Africa. Cortada has worked with groups internationally to produce art projects and installations, such as environmental works in Holland (2009),...

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VHS Goldmine!

So I'm all alone at home....as usual lately....feeling utterly alone and of course sorry for myself.   Then 'it' happens.  I run across a box of VHS tapes!  Tapes I had recorded in the early 90s including Martha Stewarts original show on PBS,  a few home movies, bachelor parties, movies like Flatline and amazingly......"Armistad Maupin's Tales From the City!!"   Beyond Exciting!     So I dug out the old VCR that hasn't been used in 15 years or more and everything works! I recorded TFTC when it aired on PBS (around 93 I think), and omg...I loved this series!  ...

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Time Travel Thursday

One of my favorite TT Thursday photos to date! (Click to see the full photo!)   &nbs...

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Chunky Blue Jeans Bitch

So the one freakin day I forget to take my dog zapper (a harmless, supposedly sonic repelling device) I'm on my walk, burnin those carbs and jammin w/my headphones on...and I get attacked by a dog.   Yup, that's right.   On the last leg of the walk I'm crusin by a field where a farmer is baling hay and his chunky wife in her tight chunky blue jeans is out in their field with about 4 or 5 dogs...ALL unleashed.  They rushed me at the fence, but couldn't get to me so I gave her a dirty look and kept walking thinking that was that.  Wrong.   Less than a tenth of a mile away as I reached the non country...

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Sad Farewell

One of my favorite actors passed away today.  Michael Clarke Duncan, whose dozens of films included an Oscar-nominated performance as a death row inmate in "The Green Mile" and other  hits such as "Armageddon," "Planet of the Apes" and "Kung Fu Panda," is dead at age 54. Clarke died Monday morning at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles, where he was being treated for a heart attack, said his fiancée, "Reverend" Omarosa Manigault, in a statement released by publicist Joy Fehily.  When he had his heart attack recently I was really saddened to learn he was involved with Omorosa....but I guess if he was happy...well...

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I Heart This Photo

Yeah I'm phoning in the blog because of the holiday, but will be back to regular posting and updating tomorrow.  Hope you're having a great weekend! Ge...

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It's Just A Part Of Life

Yesterday was a sucky day, and I couldn't think of anything to write about with the exception of what happend.  It might be kind of personal, but then I thought "we're gurrlfriends" right?   " I can share this with my internet besties" can't I?  Besides, it's a real part of life and it is definitely part of  "Life & Times of a Gay Guy":  Older parents and Home Health Care Aids.  Odds are you'll have to deal with this at some point in your own life too.   My mom is 81 and her health is really declining.   In may, Dawn was brought into the house to help her bathe, dress,...

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LIAR(s)

Thank GOD the RNC is over.....I'm still frustrated and infuriated that people buy this man's bullhocky.   &nbs...

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Time Travel Thursday

Recently I saw some of these vintage photos on Buzzfeed and decided to check out the comments.  Most scoffed at the idea there was anything 'gay' about the men in the pictures, and explained that men were just 'more confident' or more (hetero) affectionate in that time.   Well that might be true, but as any gay man will tell you....'gaydar' often clues us in to signals our straight counterparts don't often see.    A look, a well placed hand, lack of space, intimate posing...are just some of the clues or signals we've looked at for ages...you know back when you had to really hide or perhaps die.   Will...

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Trick, Then & Now

One of the very first movies my partner and I bonded over was Trick. Yes it came from a more innocent time (1999 to be exact), but it still stands up today (if you overlook the dot matrix printer, the Twin Towers, and a glaring lack of cell phones). Since iTunes fiiiinnnalllly added it, I've watched it twice. Tonight was the second time and I was singing "Como Te Gusta Mi Penga" right along with Steve Hayes loud, campy and proud!   I loved everything about Trick.     Gabriel and Mark were hot and wonderful, Tori Spelling won me over in a big BIG way with her performance, and Steve Hayes was (and is) simply...

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It's Called Ack-a-pella...Bitches

For the first time, in a LONG time I'm excited to see a movie!  I just hope they didn't use all the good lines in this trailer! "I have a feeling, we should kiss" "I sometimes get a feeling I could use crystal meth....but then I think, mmmmm better n...

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OUR Artist of the Week: Austin Young

Austin Young came into the world on April 14th, 1966 and grew up in Reno Nevada --a city and state he is immensly fond of to this day. His family were Ranchers and engineers with ties to the region reaching back to the 1800s. Like most of us, Austin Young felt he didn't fit in while growing up.  Describing himself as "terribly shy", during his teenage years, he was a self described social outcast who endured teasing and taunts of "Faggot, queer and homo".  Because of that daily abuse,  Austin felt Junior High and High School were unsafe environments for him.  He remembers "--one day deciding that if people were...

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Family Dinner

I kind of took this weekend off as far as the blog goes.   My mom's half brother, who I located after 42 years while doing the whole family history thing, came to visit this weekend so my mom wanted a picnic.   She's 81, in really poor health and when she wants to throw a picnic, what she's really saying is "Geoff will do all the work and I'll take all the credit".  Fine.   So in addition to helping entertain my uncle and his wife (which was a joy, they are really cool people) I also invited the nearby relatives and cooked the whole meal for about 20 ppl.  Well, I cooked everything but the chicken.......

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Before...........

Words to start your friday off: ...

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Currently Crushing

  ...on Darren Criss.   I don't care if this makes me an old Troll.  This boy is fuhkking fine in every sense of the word!    I hope to heck they are going to release a full version of his cover of Madonna's Dress You Up!   I'm like a freaking school girl with this guy!  (Of course I love my partner without end) &nbs...

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Time Travel Thursday

Thursdays are my favorite day of the week on the blog.  I've been collecting these photos for a long time, and many are from the web, some others I've had since I was in school.  I always try and keep a lookout for them when I'm shopping because there's something innocent and romantic about these photos wherever they come from.  Personally I look for the nuance in the photograph.  A well placed hand, a knowing gaze, a lack of personal space between the two men.....that's the treasure hunt, for me at least.     &nbs...

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A Lesson In Judging

It was 1975, I think.  My parents had just reconciled after a painful separation,  and we had found a little house on VanBuren street in a brand new town.  Our next door neighbor was Mrs. Winterholler, and she was an incredibly nice person.  She was a widow, and very independant.   She had brokered the friendship between her grandchildren Lisa and Sean with my sister and I, and we were thrilled each time they visited from the far away city of Seattle. One summer day, shortly after moving in, we were working in the flower garden in the front yard with my dad, and Mrs Winterholler’s  son Mike, pull up...

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