Family Service

When I was a little kid, my father (who had served in the Air Force during the Korean War), told me the story about my grandfather.   The story was about how grandpa (my father's step dad) had served time in prison because he was a conscientious objector during WWII.   A devout Jehovas Witness, he didn't believe in fighting or killing.  My dad, who was prejudiced beyond belief about anyone who was different or believed differently than he did, told the story every memorial day when I was little. I had a brother who served in the Armed Forces during Vietnam when I was an infant, and other family members who had...

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No, Please. Do Tell.

I voted for the guy, I've supported him because I know he has a full plate of issues on his table......issues that affect the entire country. But he promised. I'm a sorta-kinda patient person.   I realize things take time, priorities shift, things come up. But he promised. I know better than to believe a politician.  After all, they have to be all things to all people, work the room, make the deals....make friends.....make  ....compromises. But he promised. I thought this President, would be different....because he promised. DADT is wrong.   The President and his last minute compromises are wrong.  ...

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I'm The Kinda Guy.....

I'm the kinda guy that performs at his best when there's a deadline involved.  An end goal, a reward (or penalty) at a firm finish line. For me, there has to be something 'to' the journey.  A method to the madness otherwise, otherwise I flail. If I have an open-ended amount of time, I don't do well....I procrastinate.....I get distracted by shiny things. I know this about myself and while I hate it, I've come to accept it,  It's just who I am. This doesn't mean I don't enjoy free time, because I do.   But too much free time?  Too much expanse without a final destination?  To me, that is...

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It's My Birthday Bitches!

Another year, another birthday.  I think I'm just beginning to realize they are piling up surprisingly fast.   Oh well, no time for self-pity.  I'm privileged to be in this world and count my glbt friends as my family.   Today it will be chinese for dinner, followed by the cake I have insisted on since the first grade:  devils food chocolate cake with chocolate frosting, round, two layers.....and no fucking candles. So carbs be damned!   It's my birthday bitch...

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Happy Birthday Harvey

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Full Circle

It was 1985. Ronald Reagan was President, Amadeus won the Oscar for Best Picture, New Coke was introduced and I was about to graduate High School. Twin Falls Idaho was (and in many respects still is), a small town USA kinda town. Patriotism, church, conservativsm all reigned supreme. I knew I was gay, but could not envision a future anything close to what I have now. I felt very much alone, and remember the 80s were pre internet so unless you moved to a big(ger) more progressive city…you really were kind of alone. My graduation present came early, a project and gift from my Dad. It was a 1972 Plymouth Satellite Sebring, in original condition...

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Time Travel Thursday

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Chalk It Up

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BIZZY Day!

Today was one of those days where I was playing catch-up from the moment my feet hit the floor!  It wasn't a bad day, just freakin busy...so in lieu of a real post (and believe me I had plans for one)......here's a photo I came across that kinda floored me. I love them both, but daay-ham! ...

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This Week's Artist Spotlight

This Week's Artist Spotlight is Ross Bleckner.  His slideshow featuring some of his work is in the far right column.  Ross Bleckner new he wanted to be an artist from childhood, but unlike most children who eventually leave behind the joy of creativity, he stayed with it, and today at 60 he has achieved a level of skill and popularity most can only dream of. He graduated high school in 1967, and attended NYU where an influential art teacher advised him to enroll in art school, which he did in the early 70’s. At California Institute of the Arts, conceptualism and minimalism were the trends and his early painting reflected some aspects...

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Time Travel Thursday

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I Need To Prooffread

I just left a comment on one of my favorite blogs and yet again...failed to proof it before hitting enter.  How many times can one use the word 'amazing' without sounding like a seventeen year-old air head? This bitch needs to start proofi...

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A Rainy Day & A Huffy Ten Speed

It is freakin raining....again.   I gotta say, I'm longing for some sun, some blue sky, some free time outside, but it just isn't happening. I have a love/hate relationship with rainy days.  I always sleep sounder when it's raining, I love storms, I don't have to water the lawn, and by nature I'm an 'enjoy the dark' kinda person so I'm usually welcoming to this kind of weather.   On the other side, I know I'm somewhat prone to depression so too much of a good thing simply isn't.   I also need to be active and rain seems to prevent that. My main rainy day memory is a good one.  ...

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Lena Horne

Much like Daphne Moone off of Frasier, I am a little bit psychic.   Nothing major, nothing earth shattering...mostly inconsequential stuff that has no bearing. This weekend, I kept thinking about Lena Horne on the Cosby Show and wondered aloud how old she was and if she was still singing.   Odd huh?  Especially given she passed away yesterday.   I'm not a huge Lena Horne buff, but I knew of her.   She was more of my mother's generation, but I loved her signature song "Stormy Weather" and read about her contribution to Civil Rights in the 60s and beyond. In addition to her huge talent, she...

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Happy Mother's Day

"I think you're missing the silver lining here. When you're old and in diapers, a gay son will know how to keep you away from chiffon and backlighting." ---Karen Walker ...

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Kissing

I LOVE kissing. For me, the kiss isn’t just a warm-up for the big event, it’s an essential part of making love. Kissing is one of the most intimate expressions of desire, tenderness, connecting, and sharing two men can experience. It’s perfect for the beginning, middle and end of a relationship. Have you ever been on a date with a guy, where there’s that electricity in the air? The night has been flawless. He’s funny, sexy, sweet, totally into you and everything is clicking. Then at the crucial time, he drops that teeny tiny bit of information that….”I’m not a kisser. Hope that’s not a problem”. Crash and burn. Okay, that’s not...

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It's An Andy Gibb Kinda Day

Ever get a song stuck in your head?   For me today, it was "Shadow Dancing" by Andy Gibb. I don't know where it came from, but it popped in my head and I haven't been able to get rid of it. I had a huge crush on Andy back in the day.   Of course I was only about 10 when he was popular, but that still makes me ancient.   When I was in sixth grade I begged for his record after seeing him on tv and my dad said "Absolutely not".   Maybe it was the long golden hair....the flowing shirts or the tight polyester pants.......I guess I'll never know his objection to the youngest Gibb brother.   Luckily...

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No Such Thing As A Stupid Question?

So I'm giving my psycho-sister a ride the other day, and things seem to be going pretty well.   I'm in a good mood, she's in a good mood....sun is shining and for once in a very long time I'm not repulsed at the thought of spending (any) amount of time with her in a confined space. Then, she opened her mouth. "I need to ask you a question" she stammerd. "Uhm, okay" "Is that ring a sign to other men that you're gay?" "What?" I asked. "Do all gay men wear those kinds of rings to meet other men?" she clarified.  "Cody, (her son, my nephew) has a friend who wears a ring exactly like that and we think he might be gay" I looked...

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Time Travel Thursday

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