Burning Man 2009 Time Lapse

Evolution (Burning Man time lapses) from Delrious on Vimeo.

I first heard about Burning Man back in 2003.   An aging hippie chick who owned a costume store was raving all about it to my friends and I.    While I'm not a hippie chick and my idea of roughing it is more akin to the Marriot vs a communal tent city....I have always toyed with the idea of going to this.  Maybe one of these years I will.

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Just Because

The male form. 

Idealized, conceptualized by the individual, yet all are strung together by a common thread of male essence.   Smell, touch, stubble, muscle, masculinity.

Is there anything more beautiful, more raw, sexy and lustful than a man?

It's the lips pressed together so tightly kind of kiss where you share breath, saliva and your teeth click as your tongues caress each other in an attempt to savor the man in your arms.

The male form

in whatever form it takes for you,

Is Art 

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The Man In The Blue Underwear

We weren't supposed to be going through my parents closet, my sister and I, but we were.  We had lived at 1763 Maplewood drive for less than a year and the house had these cool closets with storage above where you huhg your clothes, and we were exploring.  We never snooped for christmas presents, so I'm not sure what the motivation was but  I do remember my older brother had shown up strung out, acting sort of crazy, and my parents had taken him to a treatment center after a stressful and confusing 'visit'. 

We found the magazine, pages askew, thrown against the back.   It wasn't just any magazine though, it was a DIRTY magazine and being the good little christian snoops that we were, we began thumbing through it to see what was what.

There was the stock fare of teats and vaginas laid bare for oggling.   I was twelve and unlike other boys  my age, I was completely repulsed by the pictures of women with their legs spread lewdly while they fingered themselves.  Gag.
It was pretty much standard porn rag material until we reached the vampire spread.    For about ten pages they had a vampire storyline going on.   A young girl in a neglige looking out a window, a vampire enthralling her etc. It was actually kind of artful.  Then there was a picture of the vampire laying in the bed with the girl on one side and another man on the other and things began to get interesting.

For three pages (yes I remember exactly) it showed the vampire having his way with both the man and the woman and I was mesmerized.  The man was wearing light blue underwear in the first few pics (until the vamp removed them) and I can still remember the feeling in my chest, my stomach and my dick as I scanned those pages into my mind.   I returned to that magazine many times before it disappeared.  

Years later I found out my brother had left it behind, but I'll never forget the first rush of lust I ever felt....brought about by the man in the blue underwear.

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Perfect Video For A Saturday

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5 People Who Hit It Big...In Their 30s!

So you're about to turn 30, or maybe you're well into your thirties, and you haven't become the success you always dreamed of?   I found an online list  (at geektyrant.com) which I had to share of famous people ”who were still clearly on their way up at age 30.

Some had found their path but hadn’t attained any success… some were in a completely different career… some were on the verge of giving up or had given up. But they all peaked after turning 30, found their true calling and hit their prime.”

1. Sylvester Stallone, deli counter attendant.

After getting no career traction as an actor in his 20s, Stallone attacked his 30s like any 5′3 man should: He wrote a movie where he was an all-American hero with unbelievable success in sports.  That movie was “Rocky”… he banged out the “Rocky” screenplay in three days, in between working at a deli counter and as a movie theater usher… and it launched his career with an Academy Award for Best Picture.

2. Andrea Bocelli, lawyer.

He’d loved music and singing his whole life… but didn’t really see (no pun intended) it as a career possibility. So, after school, he got a law degree at the University of Pisa. At age 30 he was working as a lawyer and moonlighting in a piano bar for fun and extra cash. He didn’t catch a break as a singer until 1992, at age 34.

3. Martha Stewart, stockbroker.

When she was 30, Martha Stewart was a stockbroker, no doubt learning all about finance and the ethics involved therein. Two years later she and her husband purchased a beat-down farmhouse in Connecticut… she led the restoration… transitioned into a domestic lifestyle… and the rest is history.  I actually met Martha circa 1992, and that's material for a whole other post.

4. Julia Child, government spy.

Absolutely the wrong career. At age 30, Child wasn’t cooking… she was working for the U.S. government as a spy. She went on clandestine missions to China and Sri Lanka (which, at the time, was called Ceylon) to get intelligence documents to agents in the field. She didn’t enter cooking school until age 36.  When I think of Julia Child I always flash back to Dan Akroyd on SNL, and while I haven't seen Julie/Julia but I definitely want to.

5. Harrison Ford, carpenter.

When Ford was 30, he starred in “American Graffiti”… which was a huge hit. But he got paid a pittance for acting in it, decided he was never going to make it as an actor, and quit the business to get back into the more financially dependable world of construction.
Four years later, he met up with George Lucas again (for those who don’t know, Lucas directed “Graffiti”) and Lucas cast him as Han Solo. 

Now, in his 60s he's in a longterm relationship with Ally McBeal.  Go figure.

For a complete list....there were 11 people in all, log onto:  Geek Tyrant and check it out!

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Time Travel Thursday

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Today Is "Celebrate Bisexuality Day!"

And what better way to say "Way to go bisexuals!" than a celebratory 'snap' from newly admitted "bisexual" coverboy, Mika!

In an interview with the Dutch magazine, "Day & Night" Mika say's..."I've never ever labeled myself. -- Call me whatever you want. Call me bisexual, if you need a term for me."
And he goes on to recommend the label-less route for everyone else: 
"There are ways of being a role model without having to always having to establish yourself with a label. Let's say if you're a 16-year-old guy, and you're not sure about your sexuality, you should be as free as you want...Having a role model who makes you feel like it's alright to do whatever you want, without the pressure of a label, I think that's a good thing as well. I think there's a million different ways to do it, there isn't only one. And I hope I'm right."
First off, excuse me while I gag.   Secondly, I'm about as surprised at Mika liking cock as I was about Clay Aiken.   However with all due respect to legitmate bisexuals out there, as one commenter on Queerty said the other day "'I have yet to meet one person who told me that they were bi, who isn't out as gay a few years later'".  

I also have to say, in this interview Mika validates my point from the other day about younger queers eschewing labels.

Mika is talented with a huge pop appeal, however given how he defines virtues of a role model? I wouldn't recommend him as one to anyone...... let alone a queer youth.

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Sorry Tina, We DO Need Another Hero

When you stop and realize that the gay rights movement is really only about 40 years old, it's amazing to see how far we've come.  

GLBTs have battled against discrimination on the federal, state, and personal levels.   We've fought against those who called us abominations and a class of people out to corrupt children.   We have, as a community, fought against a disease that ran rampant through our ranks and all the while...each decade, each year, each day have managed to look fabulous while doing what we do as Out Gay Americans.

One of the main problems I see with the Gay Community today, is we lack cohesiveness.   When the movement began, we flocked to protests, rallys and demonstrations against the likes of Anita Bryant, and the Briggs Initiative (and eventually the US Supreme Court and a President who won office by villifying us all over again). When AIDS reared it's ugly head, we rallied against a common enemy and found our strength, our voice and our dignity.  We did all these things, and more, without a governing body of gayland.  We had no mayor, no figurehead, no vast organizational machine....and yet we perservered because of hero's like Milk, Larry Kramer, Phillis Lyon & Del Martin, Lawrence V Texas, and the innumerable queers who though their names fail to appear in any accounts, attended the marches, and lived their lives to the best of their ability...openly and proudly.

Where are our heros today?  

I believe apathy is the enemy.   I read about present day queers "shedding gay labels", causes and stereotypes.   Assimilation has become the mantra, but at what cost?  Because life has become arguably 'easier' for today's gays, many have adopted the attitude of just not caring. 

Of course the picture isn't completely bleak, we do have our notables.   A handful (maybe) of stars who are out and proud, although I can only think of Ellen as being the one who came out willingly.   There are a couple high profile politicians who are out as well but their first loyalty is to their constituents (or it should be).

So where are our Harvey Milks and Phillis Lyons of today?  

The National Equality March in DC is coming up the weekend of  October 9-11, and it's going to offer a myriad of activist training workshops, memorial services and of course that big march and rally on the West Lawn. 

Are you going to be there?   If not, have you written and called your elected officials to let them know they are also representing you as an out and proud citizen?   Have you donated to the cause?

Here's the deal folks...if we become apathetic, we're going to lose more rights than you or I could comprehend right now.   If WE don't care, who will?

Right now we do in fact need another hero..........will that be you?

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No Time

Last night I made a decision.   I decided to change my whole approach to....everything.

Literally.

I've spent too much time waiting.  Waiting for that check to come, waiting to do this project or that chore.

No more. 

My new approach is that I'm out of time.  I'm not going to wait to do....anything this week and see how things go.   I think if I tackle my day as if I had HALF the time I actually do....I'll not only get more things done, but I'll be left with more 'time' to enjoy the things I really love.    I dunno....I think it's worth a try.  

So far today I've taken the trash out, done the laundry, done the dishes and a few other things.   I think I've wasted too much time in the past....but who has time to think about that?

I don't.

Have an amazing day....I gotta go.  I'm running late.

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A Favorite Movie On A Sunday Morning

Waking up to a cool morning with plenty of sunshine, the monsters snoring in my ear and Practical Magic on tv....right now I couldn't think of anything better.

I don't remember if it was much of a success commercially, but I loved this movie.

Sndra Bullock, Nicole Kidman, Stockard Channing, Diane Wiest, Aidan Quinn, and the hunky Goran Visnjic? Absolute pleasure.

I loved spotting some of my favorite actresses who really had bit parts in this movie too.  Mary Gross from Saturday Night Live (when that show was good), Chloe Webb who played Mona in "Tales of the City", and Margo Martindale who is an amazing character actress.
 
My favorite quote from the movie is at the end where Sandra Bullock says "--there are some things I know for certain: always throw spilt salt over your left shoulder, keep rosemary by your garden gate, plant lavender for luck, and fall in love whenever you can."

Good advice for any lazy sunday morning.

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Happy Rosh Hashanah

There arent many Jewish people where I live, and although I'm not jewish, I wanted to send a shout out nonetheless.  

"Happy Rosh Hashanah"!  

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Pop Culture H-E-A-V-E-N

In my most favorite line ever by Karen Walker on "Will & Grace",

"This is so good, it's got to be fattening"

My world stopped this morning (which is a sad commentary in and of itself) when I found out by accident Kathy Griffen was guesting on "The View" WHILE Kate Gosselin was guest hosting! OMG......I was in heaven.

Kathy, a huge gay ally/icon, is brutal in her act to just about every celebrity around......and lately she has been skewering John & Kate in prime time.

Would there be shade thrown? Would Kate "throw down" with Kathy? Or would it be a dissappointment? None of the above. They even showed Kathy's hilarious sendup of "John & Kate Plus 8" which she recently debuted on "Jimmey Kimmel".

I was in H-E-A-V-E-N!

Kathy was hilarious and Kate was actually pretty cool asking Kathy questions. I can't believe I didn't know this was going to happen, I must've been busy this week because believe me, I would have freakin dressed for the occasion.

Anyway....had to share. Kathy's video is in the upper right sidebar next to Real Housewife Kim's 'Tardy For the Party"....have a GREAT friday!

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Cool Concept / Whackedout Divas

God forgive me.....I'm getting hooked on Bravo's "Real Housewives of Atlanta". I'm embarassed, I need help. But aside from that, I am 100% in love with this whole "Alter Ego's" thing.    LO LO J-LO LOVE IT!!   Seriously...what an amazing idea, and the photographer, Derek Blanks?  I am in awe of his skill. 

If you're not aware of what the Alter Ego photo craze is....in a nutshell it's one subject, modeling two distinct persona's and the photoshop/melding of the two into one portrait.    I loved the portraits of the Real Housewives so much, "I" want to do one!

Sheree Whitfield is a bank robber and victim, and while I think she is the least attractive (physically and personality wise on tv) I think she photographs absolutely beautiful.

Lisa Wu-Hartwell is a little girl and a bully, and I think this is so creative.

Nene Leakes is a housewife and a stripper in her photo....and while Anderson Cooper loves his NeNe...I have to say I kinda do too.  She's hot in this photo in both alters even though for someone so vocal about 'keepin it real', there was more than a little slimming down post production.    (Go Ne Ne!)

Kandi Buress with alter ego of a drunk driver and their victim is wonderful, and she is one of my favorites despite the fact she wrote TLC's "No Scrubs" lol.   She has a heart of gold and some amazing talent in the recording studio....and in photo concepts evidently.    I love the authentic artistic vibe of this photo.  Kandi is a true creative artist.

And my favorite.....Kim Zociak is a steford wife and a mistress at the laundry mat.  She may come across as a boob-bursting drag queen.....but I think she is absolutely exquisite in this portrait.  Without the ridiculous wigs and Tammy Faye makeup (which I actually love about her on the show), she is incredibly beautiful in my opinion.

So there ya go.....yes I need help but I am happy to wallow in this tacky show as long as these Whackedout Divas keep me entertained. 

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Time Travel Thursday

Before Judy donned her ruby slippers and sang her heart out.. before the first punch was thrown at Stonewall,  and way before gay.com hit the internet....we were here, we were queer...and we were posing in front of the camera.

I find these photos every so often and I love them.   This particular one is off the web, but I have a handful of 'old timey' picture cards where two men are in intimate poses that are usually a step or two beyond general male affection.

I love looking at them and wondering the context of their relationship/friendship.   Could they be two siblings from a close family?   Was it just goofing around?  Could they have been secret lovers and if so how did they make that work?    Queer history is fascinating  and whatever the circumstances behind the photographs they left behind, they offer a tantalizing glimpse into the 'gay ol days'.

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PC BS at 12:30 am

I was checking out a story on a fairly popular gay zine recently about two actors, one was TR knight (who was famously outed by Isaiah Washington) of Greys Anatomy, and the other was Zachary Quinto who you might recognize from Hero’s or as Spock on the last Star Trek movie. The story wasn’t anything spectacular…just a “hey these famous gays do normal stuff like us!” kind of piece with accompanying photos.

Because Quinto is one of the myriad of celebs who live in a glass closet….you know….they enjoy their gaiety but never live their lives honestly (Jody Foster, Anderson Cooper etc) there were a few comments by righteous queers that really, REALLY bugged me:


No. 9 · AA
Does he really need to be outed Queerty? Yeah I know, glass closet. But this isn't a Larry Craig thing where he's discriminated against gays and has lost the right to his own privacy. He doesn't even beard, so why not just leave him alone until he finally comes out for real?
I think this sort of thing might encourage other gay actors to be less open.


o. 12 · Felix had to add his two cents with a
Totally agreed with AA.
NOT COOL AT ALL
Posted: Sep 16, 2009 at 11:26 pm · @Reply · [Flag?]

Followed by the articulate wisdom of
No. 13 · Mike
I agree with AA as well.
NOT COOL

The sheer stupidity of AA’s ‘logic’ astounded me., and the lemmings who chimed in with their ’not cool’s infuriated me.

Here’s what they don’t get:

It’s BECAUSE of actors, politicians, clergy, bus drivers, school teachers etc who refuse to be open and honest that bigotry becomes socially acceptable. If a famous person, let alone a regular joe or jane isn’t proud enough or brave enough to say “Yeah I’m gay”….they perpetuate the notion that being gay is something to be ashamed of and we all suffer.

What’s the saying? All that is necessary for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing.

We live in an age where we want everything handed to us on a silver platter, and this PC BS ideology about ‘ooooh…don’t out this sweet actor…he might lose a role’ is dangerous to you, me and the little kid in the Nebraska cornfield. Like it or not little queerlings (of all ages), SOMEBODY has to blaze the trail, put their money where their mouth is and be proud. Otherwise the Sally Kearns, the Mormon churches and illiterate rednecks of this world win and we go back to the shadows...or worse.

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Just Because

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Okay We Get It....You're Weird

But at the same time......I'm totally diggin it.  

Okay, look.............I know I have questionable taste in music, and even though I'm gay I'm still outside Gaga's targeted demographic age-wise.....but I like her alot.   Forgive me Kevin if you read this, but isn't Lady Gaga doing the exact same thing Madonna did early on in her career?  She's grabbing every bit of attention she can get while putting out catchy hits left and right.  

Yes yes yes her costumes are often just as weird as her antics are freakish but her style is more akin to the cone bra of her highness than to the goose dress worn by Bjork.

This is why I love her.....she can sing and she dresses like a freak in the name of art.  Now that's cool.

And even though her alleged penis or enlongated clitoris is still a thriving subject on the net (yes I've seen the vid) it only endears me to her as a 'sistuh' because I still buy her songs on iTunes just like any giddy 16 year old and I'm okay with that.   

Yeah, the Gaga is weird.....I get it.  I also kinda like it.

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Ahhh The Memories

Recently I was at my mom's house, helping her clean out closets (insert gay joke here) and we came upon a stack of old magazines.    Now when I say 'old', I don't mean a couple months 'old'....I'm talking decades.   I wasn't surprised to find them as she's always saved Christmas editions of "Family Circle", "Good Housekeeping" and "Better Homes & Gardens", but these hadn't seen the light of day for a very long time.

It's been fun flipping through the pages and reading the articles, but I've enjoyed looking at the Ads the most.   There are some funny ones, some that you wondered whatever happened to the product, and even a few provocative ones.





This one made me laugh out loud.

Just the whole idea of the nun saying "Halo everyone, Halo!" cracks me up.   I don't know why nuns are so funny to me.....probably because I never had one as a teacher.

And this next one.....well let's just say I actually remember it from my junior high days in 7th or 8th grade for obvious reasons.

We're talkin two pages with staples in the center spread here.   Pretty racy for Good Housekeeping 1986.
Ahh the memories.

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Mississippi Sissy by Kevin Sessums

"Could this really be that sad little Sessums boy? Is he really as odd as all that? Those seemed to be the two questions the nurses on duty that night were asking themselves when it dawned on them that it was I beneath the witch’s cap and green makeup, my dress and cape flowing behind me as I swept toward my mother--my grandmother looked embarrassed for me, but I liked the attention-."


“Mississippi Sissy” by Kevin Sessums is one of my all-time favorite reads. All of us who grew up as ‘sissies’ (myself included) will identify with his story…..and the title pretty much says it all. His style is chatty, infectious and I confess when I was absolutely sure no one else was around I would read aloud to myself in the thickest southern drawl I could muster.

I absolutely love this book, and given the chance I’m positive you will too!

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Rest In Peace

Patrick Swayze
1952-2009

I kept an eye out for Patrick Swayze news partly because I always liked him, and also because one of my brothers is fighting the same disease.

Patrick fought his cancer with a brave and defiant dignity.  My brother is doing the same thing.

When people die, we are reminded how short this life really is.   Even with a brave heart, the miracles of modern medicine and support of our loved ones, in the end we are all subject to the confines of our own mortality.  

What matters is how we live each moment. 

To love, to care for others, to enjoy the precious gift of each moment whether spectacular or mundane is our distinct privilege....and our desperate choice.

Rest in Peace Patrick, and God bless you and your family.

I

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Eternal Flame

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A Diva Makes A Comeback....

.....and so does Whitney Houston.

Alrighhhht....I may not be a "Diva",  but after a truly rough patch in june, I wasn't sure if I was going to be back or not (in any capacatity) but here I am.

What's the old saying?  "If it doesn't kill you, it just makes you stronger"? 

I won't bore you with all the details, God knows I shared enough of those in my previous blog, but suffice to say I really am in an all around much better place and I've missed blogging.   Not that I have that much to say....but I have missed it.

One thing a gay guy reallyreallyreally loves is a Diva making a comeback...and I'm stoked for Whitney Houston's interview with Oprah, september 14th.   After some initial concerns, I've heard she is being extremely candid and forthcoming so I'm optimistic this is going to be a good chat with the 'O'.  

I've been listening to her latest release for about 3 1/2 weeks now (yes I somehow scored an late advance advance listen and I do like it alot.  Of course anyone expecting the soaring powerhouse vocals she used to have is going to be disappointed.   For whatever reason (age, too much crack pipe, or vocal wear and tear) she's singing lower in her register and the acrobatic vocal runs are mostly long gone....but it's a solid piece of work and she looks and sounds healthy.   When you think about it....what more can any of us truly ask for?

I'm glad Whitney's back, and I'm glad I'm back too.

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They Could Not Break Our Spirit

Remembering, and honoring all those who fell, and perservered when evil reared its ugly head.

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