Pop Overload

I'm definitely on pop overload this week....so much good stuff to digest! Ricky Martin officially comes out.   Always loved the guy, now even moreso.  I'll be buying his upcoming book for sure. Speaking of books, Rupaul also has a new one...and damnit I'm excited to get it.   Say what you want about Ru, but he is one smart drag queen.   While watching last seasons Drag Race, I was really impressed at what he had to say about self love, esteem, and working your ass off.  She rocks. D and I watched the Blind Side this week.  I remember laughing when it first came out that I would never watch it. ...

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Livin La Vida Fabulosa!

"I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am."---Ricky Martin I wasn't even sure I'd post this, because last time I was kind of bitch-slapped for having my own take on 'celebrities coming out'...but how can I pass this up? (and for that matter...why should I?) I don't feel the same way about Ricky as I did about Sean Hayes. Double standard you cry? I don't see it that way. They're two totally different people and situations (and motives)....plus he's not being all condesceningly snide about it. Welcome Ricky! Your rainbow toaster is in the ma...

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I Needed A Laugh

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Methinks He Doth Protest Too Much

If the ban on gays serving openly in the military is lifted, what does the Marine Corp's top officer say about housing? "I would not ask our Marines to live with someone that's homosexual if we can possibly avoid it," Marine Commandant Gen. James Conway told a Web site in an interview posted Friday. "And to me that means we've got to build [barracks] that have single rooms." Really?  I guess the Commandant feels us queers just wouldn't be able to help 'sneaking a peek' or making  a pass at our fellow soldiers.   I mean after all......gays in the military would go through all the personal sacrifices....the blood sweat and...

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Hell No You Cant

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Hodge Podge

I admit it's been a rough couple days, but things are getting better.....I hope.  Pep's funeral will be in a week.  Whenever anyone has died in my family someone always causes a scene, makes drama, creates pain.  This time was no exception.   Out of the cast of characters  I'm related to, I'm not surprised at who did what....just more embarassed and sad that they did it at all....which is an improvement because yesterday I was also angry. Very....very....angry.   But you take the progress where you can get it I guess, and not being fully drawn in to their craziness is something to be proud of.  ...

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Peace

My brother died at 5:02 this morning.  He lived his life with a quiet, sweet dignity I hope all his siblings can emulate some day.   Thank you for all the good wish...

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Almost A Year

Last april, I wrote about my brother's diagnosis of pancreatic cancer and how they had given him a short time to live.  At the time, the Doctors felt his cancer was too advanced for treatment, and that he had a matter of weeks, perhaps months to live.   His already devastating situation was more complex emotionally because he's an individual with special needs and lives in a care home in Northern Idaho.  Two days ago he was taken to the hospital after a nasty fall during which he hit his head.   He had appeared disoriented and weaker than normal that day and they discovered...

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Time Travel Thursday

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Pinch Me

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Joining the Natl Guard & Spitting In Miss Idaho's Eye

I was scanning a few pics for some friends on facebook and took the inevitable trip down memory lane. 1987 was a busy year for me.   I was still in the closet, unsure of my future so during the summer break from college I decided to join the National Guard.  It wasn't the wisest idea, but it was the plan.   The recruiter was excited to have me, I looked to be in good shape, had great grades and would be entering at a high rank.  I was nervous, but ready for the challenge.    The above picture was the night I was to leave for processing/orientation and then onto basic training.   ...

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What If........

What if no one ever came out? What would your life be like? Where would you be? What would you be doing? If no one ever came out but instead stayed inside, remained hidden away. Who would you be today? I, for one, would be a vastly different person. I imagine I would have joined (and stayed in), the service. Perhaps the Army, more likely the Air Force given my father had served in the latter. I have to squint though, tilt my head and scratch my chin to imagine any further. I….think…….I would have found a woman to marry, and done my best to perform…..but I ….believe……I would have turned to alcohol out of frustration and emptiness self-pity...

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I Don't Pretend

I don't pretend to understand everything about what it means to be Transgendered.    I've known two people in my life who were "Trans".   The first was my junior high school friend Roberta.   We were friends throughout school (though her parents seemed to wish it was more than just friendship) and she (at the time) shared her story with me when we ran into each other after a couple years at a gay bar.   Long story short:  Roberta always knew there was something different about her, and on the outside it was her genitalia.  One night an emergency trip to the doctor revealed the...

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Her Name Was Steven

This should be fascinating.   Saturday, March 13th, 8pm. &nb...

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Time Travel Thursday

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Meet James Bidgood

James Bidgood, our featured Gay Artist this week, is what you would call a true renaissance man. He is an artist whose work has spanned many different mediums. He is also a gay man who has made a valuable (if reluctant) impact on art, music, theatre and even drag. Yes drag. Born in 1933, Bidgood worked in theatre, set design, music, painting and photography. He is probably best known for the film “Pink Narcissus”, a dialogue-free fantasy . For the movie, Bidgood not only built all the sets, but filmed the entire piece in his NYC apartment. For a number of years the film was attributed to Andy Warhol because in an act of protest, he had removed...

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Whadda Day

After doing 6.15 miles yesterday (my best time yet) I somehow managed to tweak my back doing something insanely stupid.  So......I've taken the day off.  Mostly. My tuesday has consisted of brownies, a heating pad and the remote.  Not that today was too much of a waste.  Yesterday I wore shorts and a tshirt...today a hat and my heavy coat.   Where the heck is spring??????? This weather sucks! Hope your tuesday went well!   See ya on the Wednesday flip si...

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A Cheesburger/Hair Color & Extra Bronzing....

and just a liiiiiitle photoshop and my favorite couple become 15 years younger. Of course, the real world demands real people, and what's more attractive than authenticity? &nb...

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NEWSFLASH: Sean Hayes Admit's He's Gay

Big Fucking Deal. Look, I'm sorry for the profanity and I'm conflicted about my reaction, but please. I LOVE Sean Hayes, and I LOVED his work on Will & Grace as Jack McFarland. I think he's a brilliant commediene and has talent very rare in the business of show business. However. During the eight years he was on Will & Grace, and the ensuing 4 years since the shows end, he has never been 'out' publicly. If you read the Advocate interview (which you can do by clicking on the photo), he will argue he "never lied about who or what he is", "never hid the fact he is a gay man" and even "made a huge contribution to furthering gay rights"....

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I Don't Care.....

I may be the only one at my small, spur of the moment Oscar party who thinks SJP looks awesome in her awesome Chanel dress...but I don't care. I think she looks fantastic.   No ruffles, no weird trains or jewell colors....she looks like a Roman goddess.  A Roman goddess who needs to eat a sandwhich maybe.....but still.   Just lovely.   And Matthew Broderick, who I also have great affection for?  3 words:  "Just for men".....color that damn hair buddy!  It's just "five easy minutes" so you have time. There.  My gayness quota has been met for the evening. PS:   Colin Firth...

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Coming Up This Week

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If There Is One Movie You Need To See....

If there is one movie you NEED to see as a member of the GLBTQ community, it's "Outrage". I'd heard the buzz and read the reviews, but only saw it today. "There is a right to privacy, but not a right to hypocrisy.  It is very important that the people who make the law, be subject to the law.  People who are not subject to the laws will make harsh laws because they don't have to live with them." --Barney Frank This movie is fantastic.  Outrage is an indictment of closeted politicians who lobby for anti-gay legislation in the U.S.  Get it?   Queers creating laws that hurt queers.  Some names are no surprise,...

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Time Travel Thursday

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Liberty With Blunt

They didn't have the sentiment I was looking for.....so I made my own.  Check out authentic Blunt Cards at bluntcard.comhttp://bluntcard.c...

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How Kitchy! How Cool!

I love thrift stores.   They're like garage sales without all the hassle.  There is something about the experience of shopping, or rather browsing, the aisles of a thrift store that I enjoy.  For me it's a cross between a treasure hunt and peeping in someone's medicine cabinet. Nine times out of ten I don't buy anything.   I have plenty of stuff to donate rather than accumulate, but every once in awhile I find kitchy stuff that I can't resist.   About a week ago I hit that 'one out of ten times'!   I was dragged (against my will) to a Deserett Industries store.  (Deserett is a...

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On My Book Shelf: Major Conflict

While I was unable to finish My Lives by Edmund White, I revisited a favorite of mine and enjoyed "Major Conflict" for the 2nd (or perhaps 3rd) time.  Jeffrey McGowan had a dream….a passion, an obsession even, that one day he would be a soldier. Eventually his dream came true….and then he had to accept the fact he was gay. He writes,”We all make sacrifices. We all make compromises. I wanted to be a soldier. So I compromised for awhile. I sacrificed a part of myself in order to achieve my goals. ---- I left the military in order to save myself.” Major Conflict is Jeffrey McGowan’s memoir and he tells his story with warmth and candor....

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Confession Time

(Taps the microphone) "Hello, My name is Geoff" "Hi Geoff" "I was a serial masturbator" Self pleasure.  What's the big deal? I remember when I was a little kid....(and I mean little like five or six), and my mom scolding me to "keep my hand out of my pajamas." What did I know?   It felt good.   I remember her swatting my hand a couple times after my nightly prayers because it seemed to have a mind of it's own and strayed down south.  Eventually I would watch her disappear down the stairs, only to poke her head back up suddenly  making sure I'd received the message that touching myself was...

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